My thoughts on Valentines Day

I’m a hopeless romantic so for me, Valentines Day has always generated some excitement. At school, it was the torturous wait to see if I’d receive a card from someone other than my mum – or Grandad, bless him. In Year 3, I was thrilled when a boy called Charlie got me one of those fantastically tacky plastic gem rings. My first real experience of being someone’s Valentine though was at 13 years old.

It was a BIG deal…my first ever Valentines Day with an actual real life boyfriend!! He got me tickets to see my favourite band at the time You Me at Six. I’d never been to a gig before (without my mum!) and I was set to burst. He set the bar high. Music is a sure way to my heart, which made our break-up (a month or so later!) all the more painful. Queue my first Valentines Day post-boyfriend watching Breakfast at Tiffany’s and crying in to my ice cream…

It was a big thing for me when I was younger. I suppose because the idea of love was always so mystical and enchanting to me. I grew up watching Titanic and It’s a Wonderful Life, dreaming of the day someone would offer me the moon! I was always waiting for my fairytale to begin so I could live happily ever after with my Leo. I was always in love with the idea of love.

I remember thinking – often – throughout my entire teen years: “how weird that my future husband is out there, right now?!” I’d wonder how we’d meet, what he was like, what he was doing whilst I was thinking about him. Well, now he’s here!!! And I’m no longer waiting for my fairytale because we’ve made our own little love story. With that, comes a wonderful knowing, where you don’t need roses and poems to feel that you are loved. I mean, I wouldn’t turn them down *cough*…but Valentine’s Day for me now isn’t about chocolate hearts and fluffy toys.

With age comes the realisation that yes, V Day is just another Hallmark holiday! I totally agree that it’s just another seasonal opportunity to sell overpriced boxes of Milk Tray. Also, who the hell buys a card for £4? Jesus Christ…Regardless of your thoughts about it though, when you strip it back, isn’t it quite nice to designate a day to ‘love’?

I think the idea of a day designated to love is simply fabulous. God knows there’s enough negativity and sadness in this world – isn’t it nice to focus on love for a little while instead? We should celebrate love more often!

Use this Valentine’s Day as an opportunity to spread warmth and good energy. Tell people you love them! Make someone’s day by telling them how much joy they add to your life. Give thanks for little things that give you the warm fuzzies. But most importantly, don’t forget to love yourself! The best thing about all this? It doesn’t cost a thing!

So whether you’re in a relationship or not, whether you like Valentines Day or not, think of it not as a waste of money or a day to feel sad for being single – think of it as a day to celebrate the love in your life, whatever form it may take.

Wishing you a sparkling Valentines Day.

Love Siân x

Ps. A special thank you to The Covent Garden Academy of Flowers for letting us stick our noses in all their gorgeous arrangements and take photos with their beautiful bouquets! It was so lovely seeing so many boxes ready and waiting to be delivered tomorrow <3 Also, thank you to Kirsten for motivating me to take these photos and for being such a wonderful photographer!

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  1. Neal
    13th February 2019 / 9:20 pm

    Love is everything ♥ X

    • positivelysian
      15th February 2019 / 6:04 am


  2. 14th February 2019 / 10:19 pm

    My valentine’s is spent at home, with my puppy barking at me for nothing, my girlfriend working late and me burning my tongue on a chip. BUT I wouldn’t have it any other way, those two are my little family. That’s our version of romance lol!
    Holly |

    • positivelysian
      15th February 2019 / 6:06 am

      Puppy + chips! Sounds wonderful 😀 I hope your girlfriend didn’t work too late and you got to spend some time together! Thanks for taking the time to read x

  3. 15th February 2019 / 7:30 am

    I reeeally don’t like the discriminating nature of Valentine’s Day, even though I myself am happily in a relationship. But most of my friends are single, and happily so, and I don’t want to exclude them on any day, so I’m going to make myself an advocate for the Scandinavian version of Valentine’s Day: Friends’ Day!

    Friends’ Day doesn’t exclude anyone because your friends, family AND that significant other are all your friends, right? I’m so happy I’ve never had to wait for a card from my crush on Valentine’s Day (because Friends’ Day was the only thing we knew), it all would’ve crushed my self-esteem from the start… xx

    Teresa |

    • positivelysian
      15th February 2019 / 5:39 pm

      Hi Teresa,

      I LOVE this idea. How wonderful! You’re so right, it’s nice to have something totally inclusive. Valentine’s Day can be somewhat sore for some people – that’s why I tend to focus on love as a whole instead now! 🙂

      Thanks for stopping by and sharing – that’s a fact I’ll be sharing onward…Have a fab weekend!


  4. 16th February 2019 / 8:50 am

    Loved this post! I totally agree- while Valentines doesn’t need to be a big deal it is nice to take advantage of the opportunity to appreciate your loved ones.

    • positivelysian
      16th February 2019 / 12:03 pm

      Thanks Alice! Really appreciate you stopping by and for the lovely words ♥️ xx

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